A Family Recovery Plan
An online discussion series for family members impacted by a loved one's addiction
Your family member is leading a destructive life--but that doesn't mean your life has to be destroyed as well. This online discussion series introduces you to a recovery plan that can help you move from a life of despair to a life of hope and purpose.
A Weekly 12-Step Family Recovery Plan
(All sessions run from 6:30 pm - 7:30 pm)
(Note: Registration for all online sessions closes 1 hour prior to posted start time.)
June 11, 2020
Step 6: Returning Peace to Your Home REGISTER NOW
I acknowledge the negative impact my child is having on my family and take necessary steps to restore peace to my home. Your addicted child can tear your family apart. All your time and energy are focused on the needs of one person. It's important to recognize that other family members continue to need your love and attention as well.
June 18, 2020
Step 7: Taking Care of Yourself (Registration Coming Soon)
I develop coping strategies to promote my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. As the parent of a child with substance use disorder, your entire life is tainted by sadness and stress. It's important to take care of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health so you can support your child from a place of wellness.
June 25, 2020
Step 8: Finding Purpose in Difficult Times (Registration Coming Soon)
I identify ways in which good can emerge from my circumstances. Substance use disorder can have a significant negative impact on family members. But while it may seem like a paradox, this situation with the potential to destroy can instead be used for personal growth and change.
July 2, 2020
Step 9: Forgiveness is Possible (Registration Coming Soon)
I forgive the hurt my child is causing me and remain open to future reconciliation. When someone has hurt you deeply, it's difficult to imagine you can forgive that person. But you must either continue to carry a load of anger and resentment or make the decision to forgive.
July 9, 2020
Step 10: Loving Someone You Don't Like (Registration Coming Soon)
I make a conscious decision to love my child unconditionally, treating my child with dignity and respect. Addicted individuals, by definition, are focused on themselves and their need for drugs or alcohol. That makes it difficult to have a relationship with them. But you can make the decision to continue to express your love and support.
July 16, 2020
Step 11: When You've Done Everything You Can (Registration Coming Soon)
I relinquish my hold on my child and acknowledge my responsibility for parenting is done. There comes a time when you must acknowledge your responsibility for parenting is over. If you continue the same level of involvement in your child's life that you always have, your child will never become an emotionally healthy adult.
July 23, 2020
Step 12: A Life of Purpose (Registration Coming Soon)
I find hope by focusing on my future and living a life of purpose. If your child continues a life of destruction, you may believe your life must be weighed down by sadness. But it is possible to find a life of hope and purpose, regardless of your child's decisions.
May 7, 2020
Step 1: Facing the Truth
I admit my child is abusing drugs or alcohol. Your loved one is destroying their life through the abuse of drugs or alcohol. It's time to decide how this experience will impact you. Will you allow your own life to be destroyed – or will you find hope and purpose?
May 14, 2020
Step 2: Grieving Your Loss
I grieve the loss of a healthy relationship with my child and the expectations I have for my child's future. Your child's substance use disorder has left you in mourning. The grief you feel is like the grief felt when a loved one has actually died.
Examining your losses can help you grieve in a healthy way and move forward in life.
May 21, 2020
Step 3: It's Not Your Fault
I release my burden of guilt by refusing to accept responsibility for my child's decisions. As the parent of a child with substance use disorder, your sense of guilt can be overwhelming. But failing to resolve these feelings can lead to enabling your child's destructive behavior and interfere with their recovery.
May 28, 2020
Step 4: Worry Doesn't Work
I recognize I am powerless to control my child's behavior and that my worry is unproductive. As the parent of a child with substance use disorder, you have spent significant time and energy attempting to control your child's behavior. But ultimately, you can't control another person and your obsessive worry is ineffective.
June 4, 2020
Step 5: The Power of Natural Consequences
I refuse to support my child's destructive behavior and will allow my child to experience the natural consequences. When your child is facing the crisis of substance use disorder, your natural response is to step in and fix things. Although your intentions are good, stepping in to rescue your child denies them a valuable learning opportunity.